Maria J. Scott
Author / Memoirist
Maria has fallen in love with the handsome Mark Towns, only to discover a year later that he is actually a jealous man and an abuser. What follows is a frightening set of events as Maria tries to figure out what she can do to save their relationship and help Mark finally enjoy "being in love".
Take the journey with Maria as she discovers the truth about Mark and herself.
Click here to buy Maria's triumphant memoir,
Wanna Go. Wanna Stay:
My Journey in a Season of Abuse.
I am a retired IT manager who has been blessed with three grown children, two children-in-law (i.e., children-in-love), and three grandchildren.
I always dreamed of writing a book, and I figured that after I retired I'd write a historical novel about one of my ancestors that I had discovered during my genealogical research. Never in my wildest imaginations did I think I'd write a memoir about a horrific time in my life.
My experience with abuse was one which I promised myself a long time ago that I would share, so others would be wiser about the signs and effects. I wasn't sure then just how I would share it, but when I started seriously writing, I finally saw that God was leading me to use the gifts He had given me to write down the story.
It was difficult opening up my past like this, but in the process I realized that, like most people, I have had more than one difficult struggle in my life. At some point, I hope to bring those other stories to you so you can know there is always hope and guidance in every type of situation.
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Most people relate well to stories as opposed to a manual of instructions or a lecture on causes and effects. Wanna Go, Wanna Stay is not a textbook or a "how-to" guide by any stretch of the imagination. I tried to write it like a novel, even though it is a totally true story with some names and dates changed. It is one woman's story of dealing with abuse from someone she loved and trusted. There are many more variations of this story in the world, for this is a problem that extends across all races, all cultures, all socio-economic groups, and all beliefs.
"Just finished the book. Very powerful. Brought back so many similar stories----so many times the women in the support group would say that it sounded like they were all married to the same man. But I like how she ended with counting her blessings."
- Marilyn Zeidner, Executive Director of Lorain County Safe Harbor/Genesis House until 2012
"Every once in a while a book comes along that touches your soul, and that’s exactly what Wanna Go. Wanna Stay does.
Maria takes you on a journey that many women across America can relate to when it comes to abuse with a boyfriend or a husband. You will learn from Maria's story that you can't change anyone, they have to change themselves.
You will learn that one man can bring pain and sadness, and another man can bring decades of the happiest years of your life.
Maria teaches the readers about counting your blessings every day, as I know she does."
- Greg Walker:
Entrepreneur |
International Keynote Speaker |
#1 Best Selling Author
Abused women often return to their abuser after leaving them. My friend, Yvette (whom I dearly love), said that she left her ex-husband 7 times. I asked her to share a bit of her story because I know that families often don't comprehend why someone would return to an abusive situation. They also may not understand how often they should extend help and when they are effectively becoming "enablers" instead of "helpers".
Yvette's response is below:
I think--out of desperation--we tend to go back, believing we can change the situations. On my bed, in my darkest hour, I just remember crying out to God to give me peace without dying to get it. We, as abused women, endured a lot of painful crises but, you know, God answered us continuously. I kept going back until I finally got tired of trying to fix it. As Fannie Lou Hamer said, I got "sick and tired of being sick and tired".
I was an "enabler" for years for my ex because he could manipulate me to get his way. I was the only person he could confide in and the weakest person in the relationship. He knew my only hope was to keep my family together; so he used me, knowing how to get me to help him get his high on. I was an enabler by paying the bills when he would take his money to get high. As an enabler, you can get so caught up in the situations that you get hurt emotionally and mentally.
As for family members of the abused woman, they can be "helpers" by being good listeners and being there for the person as best they can. Also they should pray for Divine discernment. Godly counsel is best. We love our loved ones, but God is the only one that can stand in the gap for us. We can't do this on our own, so we need to ask God to lead and guide us at all times.
I'll be meeting folks and signing books at New Salem Baptist Church, Columbus, OH, after worship services on these Sundays: 8/6/2023, 8/20/2023, and 8/27/2023. Hope to see you there!
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